16yr old dating
At the same time, some 21 year olds may just be very immature and ill-developed for their age, and it sounds like that may be the case with this kid.It honestly sounds like to me they both might be emotionally at the same age, which makes it seem less "weird" to me, but at the same time I do feel the 21 year old should be more mature at his age--but he wouldn't be the first person at that age I've heard about/known who is still for all purposes a child.I have some friends who have a 16 year old daughter. He has also never dated, and had never even kissed a girl. We suspected they liked each other, but they denied it. He is very socially awkward and youngish, but a senior is college. Well over the months we noticed the 2 of them spending a lot of time together.
So the extreme would probably be for a HS freshman to be dating a HS senior - then the next year you could have a college Sr. Note this was in the early 70s, and a frequent complaint of high school guys was that a lot of the girls were only interested in college men.Where it becomes weird is the different stages of life the two are in.